Dating advice after the first date
Don’t assume the man will know your level of interest, because we won’t.We typically struggle to pick up on non-verbal cues that would normally communicate interest or lack thereof (eye contact, body language, etc.) I am not saying you have to know if you would date the guy long-term after one dinner, but don’t be afraid to be more direct and put your level of interest into words.
I’m always wary of letting a man know how much I like him, because I don’t want to seem needy or put him under pressure.” Aaron: “If you had sex on your first date, wait at least a day or two before getting in touch.It’s nice when a guy likes me, but not so much that he won’t leave me alone.If someone’s that easy to impress, they’re not much of a catch!But if you leave it a week he’ll give up and go on a date with someone else.” Erin: “I once got obsessed with a guy because he never phoned me.At first I only fancied him a bit, but the more I waited for his calls, the more interested I got. ” Harry: “I think you have to be so careful with playing hard to get.I think you should switch your phone off on the way home from a date and ignore it until at least the next afternoon. Don’t be too much in their face, it’s annoying.” Adam: “Up to a point, yes.
If a girl I’m dating doesn’t phone me, I’m desperate to know why, and it makes her more interesting.
If you really seemed to get on well and you got a good vibe from them, ring them the next night.
If he likes you he won’t be put off by that.” Sarah: “If your date texted you on the way home, they obviously really like you, so ring them during the next day. Don’t wait three days, because the momentum from your date will have started to fade.” Matt: “I think it’s best to wait a day or so, not to be manipulative but to give yourself a chance to calm down and think of what to say.
Even if the sex was great, they might feel crowded if you get in touch too soon.
I hope that’s not sexist – I’m sure it’s the same for girls as well.” Moira: “Assuming it’s a weekend, I get out of the house and leave my phone at home.
” Aaron: “It would have to have been a really amazing date!